There are hardly anyone who wants to end up their relationship. However, if you are in toxic relationship then leaving the toxic relationship would be the best thing. In fact, it is seen that toxic relationships come in all different shapes and sizes. Maybe your husband belittles you and mocks your hopes and dreams or your wife refuses to let you go out with your friends, or leave her side without permission. Perhaps your partner makes fun of your weight, or calls you names which are causing you pain. Whatever toxic situation you or someone you know is in, it is time to get out. If you do not do it then you will lose yourself.
1. Realize You Deserve Better
You deserve to be loved. Not the kind of love you think you have now but real, genuine, reciprocated love. You have battled through so many things in your life, and maybe you feel like you are too tired to fight anymore, but there is one thing that is always worth fighting for you.
Healthy relationships do not revolve around fear or intimidation, nor do they encompass belittling someone or breaking their spirit. If this sounds typical of your relationship then it is time to say farewell.
2. Write Things Down
Humans tend to have a funny sense of memory and it changes depending on what we want to remember. If you dislike someone, you are going to remember all of their bad qualities and unfortunate things they have done. The opposite is also true for those you like. This happens with toxic relationships as well.
When your family or friends try to bring up the subject of your relationship they will point out a few of the less than desirable traits of your poisonous partner. And what do you do? Oh, it is not that bad. He/she also is/does. Excuses are made and the seemingly pleasant things you choose to remember about your relationship drown out the overwhelmingly bad things. It is willful denial.
You can make a choice to stop victimizing yourself by writing things down. It would not take long for the list to grow, and eventually you will see how much damage is really being done.
3. Understand That They Are Not Going To Change
If they want to, they will do it on their own terms in their own time. You will never be able to make someone change until they are ready. If seeing you in pain does not affect the person then nothing you can say or do is going to have an effect. You have to take care of yourself because you are the only one who has a chance of really living. You are the only one who can heal you, just as they are the only one who can heal themselves.
4. Make a Decision
Once you have stared reality in the face and recognized the things your friends and family were trying to tell you, it is time to make a choice. It is now or never. Choose to stay with the person who will continue to treat themselves as a priority and you as a second rate doormat or decide to say enough is enough and move on. It is up to you what kind of life do you want?
5. Understand That It Will Hurt
You will not leave the relationship until you are ready and willing to do so. Maybe it is because you get so accustomed to the toxicity that its familiarity is the only thing you crave. But this is not love and some part of you knows this. Leaving the person you feel connected chained to is going to be painful but it is the most precious gift you can give yourself. It will come with doubt and questioning yourself into a corner.
6. Stand by Your Decision
Remember that you reached this decision after an involved and thoughtful process. You must try to stand by your decision and remind yourself that it was made for your betterment. This is how you start to live a better life and transformations have to begin somewhere. If you start to feel the urge to let the toxic person back in your life, reach out to your support system of family and friends or take out the list you wrote that describes why you felt hurt in the first place. You must stay strong and stand by your decision.
Moving out of the toxic relationship could be a little painful for you at first but it would be good for you if you have supportive family and friends with you. You must try to remove all your negative emotions into positivity and gain self-awareness. Hope these points may help you to leave your toxic relationship.